My views on things have shifted a lot recently; events of the past two or three years have changed my perspective on how I want to live my life, and I\Zve found that in the last few months different things have converged and become coherent. I\Zm not quite at a point where I can articulate it all clearly, but at the same time I find myself wanting to test it, clarify it, identify the flaws, argue about it, defend it; make it less internal and better defined. So I\Zve started talking about it.

• T said on 05/04/11 at 10:06 PM.....

  Great post honey.

  
  I can see that what I let go of was more important than what I got. It was a lot like taking off many layers of old clothes that no longer fit, didn\Zt suit me, weren\Zt really my colour.

  
  I love this analogy.

  
  Perhaps you need to have a sensational little black dress that you are comfortable wearing, know that it looks fabulous on you and is adaptable for different occasions by changing the accessories.

  
  So that when different people (lovers/partners) come into your life you are free to adapt the accessories to suit but you are not completely changing your wardrobe for the benefit of the other person.

  Maintain a sense of yourself and know that this is beautiful - because it is!!!  This is where you find your strength.

   

• mike B said on 05/04/12 at 02:55 PM.....

  Yes nice post and

  
  Nice blog

  
  I have added your blog to my expatwebdirectory.com

  
  Please join my new surf ring—

  
  http://www.asia-expatsforum.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=1153

  or just join the forum

  
  Regards

  
  Mike B

  
  Expat in Thailand

   

• Fiona said on 05/04/13 at 10:08 AM.....

  Wow. I miss the long conversations we have had about this journey! And how we’ve negotiated complications (didn’t really mean to call my partner that…) in an honest and vulnerable way. Our lives are so different on the surface, but the individual internal journeys are so similar. Goodonya darling!

• naomi said on 05/04/13 at 08:01 PM.....

  What can I say? What thought challenging stuff is going on in your head? I say, go for it and take risks. Our society is still locked into the conventunal partner, family thing. What is a family? What is a partner? That woman in Cambodia with all the children is a family. Our friends “the two Barrys” are a family. I don’t think one has to live with people to be a family. Happy belated birthday. Love you lots. Your Dad has been trying to catch up with you. He will try again tonight.